Conversations About Sexuality: How to begin when you’re (just a tiny bit) unsure

Unpacking our emotions around sexuality

Today I was having a conversation with a friend and it reminded me of this amazing music video about the soul returning and hearing the Creator. I’m sure most of you have heard this song by Mumford and Sons like a bazillion times, but today, as I returned to this song, I heard the lyric’s invitation in a new way.

As men and women, what rises in us when we think about having a conversation about sexuality with someone we love? Worry? Anger? Resignation? Excitement? Fear?

What emotions impact our conversations about sexuality? What is it that we really want to say?

What the Scriptures tell us

As I continue to study and dig through the Scriptures, I am more and more certain that our Creator wants us to experience our sexuality as good. Our sexual drive is something created with a purpose and with intention, but it also has an incredible power to create havoc in our lives.

If we are going to engage in conversations about sexuality, we must remember we are spiritual and sexual beings created by the hand of God. And this is “…good, very good!”

Do we remember who we are?

If we have have fallen asleep to this fact, forgotten this truth, or perhaps you are hearing it for the first time — I want to do nothing but encourage you.

Learning to have open and healthy conversations about sex takes work. A lot of work — trust me. It certainly doesn’t just happen overnight. As a sexual being you have something to share with your sexual partner and it’s important to learn to find language that can empower a deeper sexual connection between the two of you.

If you take a minute to watch this video, I encourage you to notice what rises up in you. What does it feel like to think about having a real conversation about sex with someone you love?

Our sexuality is designed by God for the intention of us experiencing the fullness of God’s love.

Maybe this truth might be hard to take in, but I do know one thing: it’s never too late to experience the soul being awakened and it’s never too late to let go of the shame that hides us in silence.

It’s never too late.

~ becky

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