When I was a teen, there was a central line coming into the house. There was one phone. We all shared it. Raise your hand if you remember these days and the phone being connected to the wall… by a cord… that was continually getting twisted. It might have looked something like this:
Any hope for some phone privacy meant maneuvering and stretching the phone cord all the way into the closet down the hall. Everyone in the house knew you were on the phone and usually who was on the other end of the call. Super private.
Today privacy, when it comes to phones, looks a little different. Phones have become more like fashion statements with absolutely no cords to be found. We bedazzle our phones with jewels, accessorize them with slogans or personalize them with special ringtones. And quite often we guard our phones with a little security code for extra privacy.
Phone privacy for those of us from the “phone-cord generation” was non-existent. But what about for our teenagers now? Is there too much privacy out there for our teens? How do we seek to parent our kids well so they can make wise choices for themselves in this area?
Facts and Numbers
Recent reports show an increase in what is termed sexting – a play on words that indicates sexually explicit photos or videos being sent via texting.
Parents, we need to recognize and think hard about how we engage with our teen and their phones. What does “privacy” really mean and how do we empower our teens and not abandon them to this world of electronics? It is important to know some of the facts regarding teenagers and phones:
- 19% of teens ages 13-19, have sent sexually-suggestive pictures of videos of themselves via email, cell phone, or other electronic means
- 44% of these teens were asked to send the photo/video
- Older teens are much more likely to send and receive “sexts”
- 17% of teens who pay for their own phone bills are more likely to send sexts versus just 3% of teens who do not pay for their cell phone bill
- Teens with unlimited-text messaging plans—75% of cell-phone owning teens—are more likely to receive sexts
Now there’s no need to automatically jump to the conclusion that every teen is in the 19%. But, hey I do believe we can expect good things from our teens, help them learn to make those good decisions and a part of that will happen if we as parents continue to stay informed.
Boy! In our day, sexting and a rotary dial just weren’t compatible, were they? Remember how long it took just to dial your best friend’s seven-digit number?
Have any tips you’d consider offering other parents for learning how to best help our teens manage these electronic devices? Please do share!